Comments on: PTSD After Pregnancy Loss

By: jaclyn

jaclyn — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 07:18:40 +0000

Thank you.
At times I feel I have got it all together. But when I feel like I don’t and reach out to others to ask for help, their response of “you’re so strong” and “what you’re feeling/doing is to be expected” is not what I need to hear. Its what you said—its not normal. Its not what we want to be feeling. And maybe its understandable but for cryin out loud we’ve already lost so much please help us when we ask because we, at times, feel like we’re losing our mind! Sharing like you have helps you and helps me. And it is true. We are strong.
Thank you.

By: kgjames

kgjames — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 18:31:25 +0000

Thank you all for posting your comments. It’s important for people to know that these things happen to women all too frequently. Why we’re expected to suffer silently is beyond me . . .

By: Christie Craigie-Carter

Christie Craigie-Carter — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 15:18:44 +0000

Kimberly,

I’m so sorry for your pain. It’s not fair. I’m also sorry that the therapist was so dismissive of your pain. But I thank you so much for being so open of your experience. Not feeling alone means so much.

Hugs,

Christie

By: Meeco

Meeco — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:05:02 +0000

I saw something on this on our local news channel (Boston) and I knew that this is just what I have been experiencing. It was the first time in a long time, I felt a bit of redemption. My loss is not just “being sad”—I am recovering from a serious trauma–and that is how the medical industry complex should address these circumtances. I have a lot more to learn and research, but wanted to thank you for your post.

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By: apecaut

apecaut — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 20:14:35 +0000

Thank you for the post. I saw (and still do see) a lot of those symptoms in myself.

By: Banana Peel

Banana Peel — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 14:17:09 +0000

Sending big ((HUGS)) your way.

While I haven’t gone through the same things as you, I have had these feelings after both of my childrens’ births and unnecesareans. I am finally moving on, and seeing a glimmer of light, now six months after my daughter was born.

I may not understand completely the loss of a child, but I do understand the darkness of depression. And you’re right, it is NOT normal.

Thank you for being so transparent with us. It will help many.

By: kgjames

kgjames — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 05:52:38 +0000

Your support and thoughtful, heartfelt comments are such a blessing to me.

By: Jaclyn

Jaclyn — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 05:41:19 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I kept thinking I was “better” and it has only been in the last two months or so that I have actually felt the shift within myself. I was lost, it was truly midnight in the sun for me…

I’m not sure if the eating right, exercising, and meditation made me feel better or if I was starting to feel better so that I could do these things, but I know how important they are to me now and I recommend it, along with medication and/or counselling for most women even just for a bit.

I don’t visit the Pregnancy & Birth loss forums at MDC anymore, choosing to spend my time in the ttc and homebirth sections as I did feel it wasn’t where I needed to be after awhile. I felt guilty that I “only” had one loss, that I didn’t have a stillbirth, etc. in addition to it sparking memories/flashbacks. So, while it was what I needed for awhile I did recognize that I needed to step back from it after awhile.

This is such a wonderful post, it brings back a lot. I have tears in my eyes, but hope in my heart. Big hugs.