I can’t resist. You would think that since I am new to homebirth and haven’t had a VBAC yet that I wouldn’t bother myself with polemics regarding homebirth. I’m obviously not that bright. My homebirth google alert today included a post about the power of positive thinking and the homebirth movement. I had to check it out.
I won’t link to this weblog out of principle, but if you search for the quote using your favorite search engine, you’ll find it easily enough . . .
“. . . if you ‘trust’ birth, and refuse to accept the fact that birth is inherently dangerous, you will be rewarded with the birth experience that you desire.”
I’d like to play with the words a bit:
“If you refuse to trust birth and insist that birth is inherently dangerous, you will be rewarded with the birth experience that you desire.”
Some people, practitioners and women, simply refuse to trust birth. Some will insist that birth is inherently dangerous. They will likely achieve the birth experience that they desire, and it will likely be overly-managed, overly-medicated, potentially surgical, and definitely exorbitantly expensive.
“If you don’t trust birth and accept the fact that birth is inherently dangerous, you will be rewarded with the birth experience that you desire.”
And somewhat similarly:
“If you don’t trust birth even though you don’t believe that birth is inherently dangerous, you will likely have trouble achieving the birth experience that you desire.”
Some people don’t trust birth and have accepted the “fact” that birth is inherently dangerous. They will likely create that reality in their birth experiences. If women engage practitioners with this guiding philosophy, they will likely lose faith in the natural processes of life and end up dissatisfied with their birth experience even if the outcome is positive.
Some women know that birth isn’t dangerous most of the time but lack the trust needed to achieve particular outcomes. Perhaps this was me once upon a time. I never really considered that birth might be dangerous. Why would I be created for a particular skill if it were inherently dangerous to me or my offspring? However, I’m not sure that I trusted myself enough last time. I didn’t trust my body. I didn’t trust my instincts. That’s probably the worst part of it . . . I didn’t listen to my inner voice.
“If you trust birth and acknowledge that birth is inherently natural to our species, you will likely achieve the birth experience that you desire.”
If you trust birth you are fortunate enough to understand that certain life events are natural and far less risky than some of the every day activities in which we engage. Things like riding in cars. That single activity is far more risky (statistically speaking) than giving birth. If you trust birth you may not be “rewarded” with a particular birth outcome but understand that complications and poor outcomes are possible. Trusting birth is not about sticking your head in the sand. It’s about understanding that most of the time women can achieve normal birth when given appropriate support, time, and space.
Going back to the original quote:
“. . . if you ‘trust’ birth, and refuse to accept the fact that birth is inherently dangerous, you will be rewarded with the birth experience that you desire.”
“Trust” - in the original text, the blogger puts the word “trust” in quotes; this diminishes the validity of “trust” in relation to childbirth
“Refuse to accept” - ultimatum . . . polemic
“Inherently dangerous” - emotional scare tactic
“Reward” - as if there’s a prize involved???
“Desire” - as if all that matters for homebirthers is what the woman desires
Do you see yourself anywhere in my “play on words” section? Where do you want to be? Do you want to be afraid to be pregnant? Do you really want to go into labor and delivery afraid? Do you really want to go into labor and delivery lacking trust? What is positive and proactive about being fearful and lacking trust? What do you as a pregnant and/or laboring woman gain from that perspective? I would say nothing. You have lost your power and are no longer an active participant in your care when you are afraid and can’t trust. Perhaps you (and your birth experience) are more manageable that way. How do you feel about that? Do you want to be managed?
I can’t really define homebirth for you. Everyone comes to homebirth from different paths. Some women always know that they’ll have their babies at home. Some women are involved in social structures that are more inclined to promote homebirth, homeschool, extended breastfeeding, attachment parenting, and the like. Some women are disgruntled consumers. Some women aren’t given the choice to have a vaginal hospital birth and turn to homebirth as their only choice. Some women who give birth at home don’t fall into any of these generalized categories.
For me homebirth is about safety, sanctity, Faith, Trust, natural life processes, achieving physiologic birth, what’s best for me and baby, avoiding an unnecessary cut, vaginal birth after cesarean, comfort, family, community, and a whole host of other things that I haven’t even discovered yet!
