I love learning

From Motherstyles - my mothering style comes as no surprise! ;)

Your type is: intp —The “Love of Learning” Mother

“I keep the encyclopedia in the kitchen so we can look up things together while we eat.”

  • Intellectually curious and patient, the INTP mother relishes those times with a child when they are learning something interesting together. Whether they’re at the zoo or computer terminal, she sparks to answering his or her “whys” with in-depth responses or new knowledge.
  • The INTP mother is also objective and introspective. She listens to and discusses children’s ideas and questions as she would those of a peer, fostering self-esteem and confidence. Open and non-directive, she allows children the freedom to do for themselves and quietly encourages them to believe they can do it.
  • Independence, autonomy, intellectual development, and self-reliance are probably the INTP’s highest priorities for her children. An avid reader, she naturally imparts an appreciation and love of reading as well.
  • Drawn to all types of learning, the INTP may also value her mothering experience for all the new insights about life it provides her.

Lists of Five

I got this idea from Midnight in the Sun who says she “stole” it from Tipp (whom I do not know).

What I was doing ten years ago:

1. Planning my May wedding
2. Working for a computer consulting firm doing HR stuff
3.  Auditioning for and deciding on schools for continued vocal study
4. Eating lots of Mexican food (boy how I miss TexMex!)
5. Learning music for a summer opera program

Five things on my To-do list today:

1. Course preparation before I teach at 9:10am
2. Change my deductions on my W4
3. Request my medical records from the OB’s office and the two hospitals in town
4. Finish my vocology application (eek!)
5. Do laundry tonight after DD goes to bed

Five Snacks I enjoy:

1. Anything chocolate, as long as it’s not unnaturally flavored with strawberry, orange, raspberry, etc.
2. Chips & salsa
3. Wheat thins
4. Yogurt
5. Scones from the Business School coffee stand

Things I would do if I were a millionaire:

1. Pay off my student debt, my husband’s student debt, and any other family member’s student debt, and buy my house
2. Travel for pleasure
3. Hire a maid/cook
4. Donate to important advocacy groups
5. Freelance

Five Bad Habits:

1. I procrastinate, oh do I procrastinate!!!
2. Spend too much time on the internet
3. Spread myself too thin – way over-committed to too many things (according to my husband and my mother)
4. Don’t always brush my teeth or wash my face before bed
5. Sabotage good habits like regular practice, exercise, and good eating

Five places I have lived:

1. California (born there)
2. Oklahoma
3. Texas
4. Alabama (shudder)
5. Indiana

Five Jobs I have Had:

1. PR assistant for CNN during a national political convention
2. Performed and waited tables at an Italian restaurant
3. Opera singer (still am)
4. Human resources manager for a computer consulting firm
5. Assistant to a Mayor (mostly scheduling and some liaison work with the PR folks)

I hope some of these things come as a surprise to those of you who know me!

Cutting the doctors “slack”

An ICAN list member posted a New York Times article, “Miracle Workers” by David Rieff.  A lot of it made sense, and I sympathized with the author’s observance of his mother’s journey towards untimely death.  However, I must point out something that at first struck me as odd (well, actually my first response was “tough $h!t”) and then began to eat at me a bit:

Ultimately, it is no doubt simply irrational to expect physicians to simultaneously be great clinicians, great scientists and great psychologists and humanists (as well as great accountants). Some are; but a medical system built on the assumption that such mastery can be normative would be an exercise in folly.

I am an University educator.  The terms of my contract expect achievement in three areas: teaching, research, and service.  In order to advance in my academic career, I must prove excellence in at least two of these areas every time I request an advance.  Teaching can be equated to clinical work – as a teacher I work from my acquired knowledge base, extensive education in the field, and experience as a practitioner.  Research and/or creative actitivity is often the most important facet of an academic’s portfolio, for better or worse.  Service to the field is also expected, and certainly psychology and humanism plays into all three aspects.  The demands are there – they extend to me as a “pedigreed” practitioner; they certainly apply to the “pedigreed” practitioners of medicine.  Rieff did not need to cut them this kind of “slack”.

Zealotry

According to the Meridiam-Webster Dictionary Online, a zealous person is defined as being a fanatical partisan.  I am not completely satisfied with that definition, so I looked up the term “zealot” in the Oxford English Dictionary:  “one who pursues his object with passionate ardour; usually in disparaging sense, one who is carried away by excess of zeal; an immoderate partisan, a fanatical enthusiast. ”  Some may be proud to identify with that sort of definition, but I am not one of them.

“Passionate ardour” . . . good . . . check.  “Disparaging” . . . not good . . . hazard.  “Carried away” . . . not good . . . counter-productive when outside the zealous nest.  “Immoderate partisan” . . . not good . . . hasn’t worked well in our own political system . . . “Fanatical” . . . not good . . . extremists are viewed suspiciously.

So how do we pursue our object with passionate ardor and not become engulfed by the potentially negative current of the zeal mire?  Why is zealotry counter-productive?  Why should I not behave like a radical?  Well, you’ve heard the term “preaching to the choir” right?  Now, I love the choir (I am a professional opera singer by trade).  A good choir is melodious, has rhythmic integrity, is musical, has a wide range of skills, can sing high soft loud low, and so on and so forth.  But when the choir does nothing but yell at the top of its lungs with little attention to melody, rhythm, tone quality, skill, and precision, then people stop listening.

I don’t ever want to be confused with being a zealot with regard to maternal-child awareness, advocacy, education, and support.  I don’t know all of the facts.  I don’t have all of the answers.  Doling out advice only works so well.  And I am a learner – a life-long learner.  So I will always be learning, researching, analyzing, scrutinizing, and examining.

I promise you that.