I was over at SageFemme’s weblog today and came across her post regarding homebirth for first-time moms. I just want to acknowledge that this is how it has happened for me (in a way):
So women line up, thinking their birth will be different. That their doctor listens to them. That it is their doctor that will ‘allow’ them to be upright, to not be induced, to not do an episiotomy.
That’s the traditional bait and switch. Only then do some women look at what happened and get angry. And then hire a midwife. And then heal.
First time moms think they’re invincible, and well, they do need to think that. But they’re quite susceptible to being overpowered in a medical environment, especially at the hospital. I had the great pleasure of addressing a childbirth education class at the beginning of their birth complications lecture, and the moms for the most part were particularly tuned out . . . or at least seemed to be. Perhaps they were simply “insulating” themselves from too much focus on negative outcomes. Not that I was negative about my own cesarean . . . but I am *real* when it comes to how women are subverted by the medical model of childbirth.
The Sage continues:
We shouldn’t have women lining up to heal from their first hospital birth experience. We shouldn’t need healing!
I see more and more first-time moms in my practice. With the growing cesarean/induction rates in my state, it is wise for them to choose a birth that has no illusions about who is in charge of the process. There is no “allowing” women to do ANYTHING. Want to go to the bathroom? Don’t raise your hand and ask your midwife – just go. We don’t “allow” women to birth as they want.
Birthing as your body leads you is your RIGHT – your baby’s RIGHT.
It’s curious that people who oppose homebirth find it selfish and self-serving. Oh but doctors who gear birth to happen during daylight hours during the week aren’t selfish? The doctor who suggests induction or augmentation of labor isn’t being selfish? S/he doesn’t have a line of patients at his practice to get to or more babies to “deliver”? I don’t know too many traditional medicine doctors who can afford to be selfless. Why is putting your health (and the health of your baby) considered selfish?
I really recommend you read SageFemme’s post and keep up with her excellent weblog!
First time moms, I strongly recommend you think about staying OUT of the hospital. It’s one cut you want to avoid. Believe me. I learned the hard way.