- you find yourself zealously defending the CPM/DEM designation and probably come off as a bit of a wingnut!
- you get pissed off just thinking about the horrible things that OBs and nurses (for God’s sake) have said to women who have had to transfer from home to the hospital
- you get even more pissed off thinking about the birth that screwed everything up for you (not altogether in a bad way) and your childbearing years
- you have this idea to become a doula . . . or worse yet, a homebirth midwife
- you have this even crazier idea to leave your day job with full benefits to become a homebirth midwife
- you have this even more insane idea to move to Canada or some other country with a better health care system to (a) have your babies and/or (b) become a homebirth midwife
- you recognize that malpractice insurance does NOT make birth more safe
- you realize that you have to take responsibility for your own choices in pregnancy and in birth – from the Costco dipped icecream extravaganza I ate for dinner tonight (oops, not one of my finer moments) to where you’ll have a baby and with whom and what you’ll allow this person to do for (t0) you as your birth; all of these choices have consequences (hello reflux) . . .
- you want everyone to know about homebirth for what it is . . . not what mainstream America assumes it is (been there, done that)
- you want families to understand that their choice of careprovider(s) is such an important decision (OB doesn’t mean superior to CNM superior to CPM/DEM; these are very different designations with very different training requirements and very different mindsets; know what you’re getting yourself into!)
- you can no longer ignore the voice inside that says . . . “the last thing I want to do is leave my bed and go to the hospital” – I ignored that voice six years ago; now that the option is presenting itself to stay home, I must listen to my inner Truth, pray for God’s blessing and protection, and trust that His Will will be done.
edited to add a point and adjust some “tone”