I’ve been so overwhelmed with the start of a new academic year, raising four young daughters, and trying to reserve some time for fun . . . that I have neglected other important aspects of who I am. I am this blog! And I am an empowered birther! Are you?
Even if you had pain meds . . . or an induction . . . or a cesarean . . . you might have had an empowered birth. Who decides what constitutes an empowered birth. YOU DO, and don’t you forget it. It’s not for medicalists or luddites to determine though many are happy to throw in an oar. You have to be ok with your birth experiences, and if you’re not, I encourage you to figure out why and try to resolve that.
Did I have an empowering birth experience? I suppose the answer depends on the moment you ask me about it. Sometimes I think that if I had gone a different direction in terms of care providers that I’d have had a birth experience perhaps more resemblant of the one I so deeply desired. Sometimes I think that my pain-in-the-ass, scare-tactic OB was an angel. He was the best birth coach ever, as far as I’m concerned, especially considering that I had NO idea where my ass was nor how to push from that imaginary ass.
And it’s ok to struggle with being ‘ok’ with your birth experiences whether they are au natural or full-service medicalized. It’s ok to question (or not) the validity of your birth choices (or the choices made on your behalf). Wherever you are on the spectrum, I encourage you to think of yourself as an empowered woman. You have the power to be fully present and accepting and/or participant in your health care decisions. For me, being fully present and a participant are at the heart of being an empowered ‘patient.’